Sinzine

Exasperated by seeing her femme girlfriend greeted by suspicion at allegedly gay-friendly nightspots, Alyss Abyss steps up to the Soapbox to ask why a girl‘s world can be such a tough place for a girly girl?  
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Why do you give her a look that says, “You don’t belong here”?  Or even worse, look straight through her, assuming she plays for the other side?  Why does she feel like an intruder in the gay bars when she’s got every right to be there?  Why does she feel invisible when she’s one of the most stunning women in the room?  

I’m talking about all the gorgeous femmes out there, the ones that don’t want to dress like the stereotypes imply.  Those that like pretty clothes and wear makeup and aren’t afraid of their femininity.  My beautiful girlfriend is one of them; a girl that I can’t believe I get to be on the arm of.  And yet she gets a surprised look off many when she says she’s a lesbian.  

She’s not about to exchange her heels for sensible Docs or her dresses for dungarees but she’s still sad that, because she doesn’t confirm to a stereotype, even other dykes fail to see her as one of them.  She’s a little bit scared of the local lesbian bar, in case people question her credentials and look at her like she’s out of place.  

Why should she though?  These wonderful femmes should be celebrated for who they are.  They shouldn’t be told, “There’s no way you’re a lesbian”.  They shouldn’t have to fight to be noticed.  They should be accepted as part of our diverse community.